i love this..yet it hurts me so..

i realised..as years pass..my english standard keep deteorating to weirdness… @_@..man..i cant even remember how to spell most words anymore……….. SIGHHHY….i am fluent in NOTHING… how sad TT

i dont know..i just felt like blogging about this particular subject which has been about 4 a long time..platonic relationships..is it really possible? not only between the opposite sex but let say lesbians, gays and bisexual poeple as well?? would it really b possible?

most succesful relationships start from a close friendship becausse the trust already exists between both parties.. the closer the 2 so called *best friends* get…. it would feel like someone is there giving you everything you need..just like a partner..a bf/gf partner… if u were to have a bf/gf.. wouldnt u want that perfect relationship where trust existed and you could just talk to each other about EVERYTHING? being comfortable with each other??

most relationships involve both parties just being physically attracted to each other..but in truth..once put together..they r neither comfortable with each other nor do they interact much with each other..so the only possible way is..if the couple started as good friends wouldnt it?? i mean..honestly..i do sincerely believe in love at first sight..but once that happens.. can u deny the fact that in that happy relationship between 2 ppl.. arent they exactly like best friends with each other??

like normal people..when you’re atracted to someone..u dont exactly fall right in love.. it starts out with LIKE…and from that like..the 2 ppl get together and their companionship brings them closer to each other.. where they are open about each other and comforting each other about problems EXACTLY like that of a BEST FRIEND… this in the end results in a more serious relationship where like eventually turns into love

people would reading this now will go.. AIHYA!!where got..im in a platonic relationship whatt.. but if u look closely.. CLOSE FRIENDS in GROUPS and BEST FRIENDS are 2 very different things..and one might thing that the relationship was pure friendship..but would u really ever know what the onther person might be thinking? what if they liked you, but they just chose to pretend like nothing just so they could STAY with you and not ruin what was already there and risking never even talking again…. DID THAT EVER OCCUR TO YOU * if u r sneering at my post this momemnt u_u* a best friend relationship can only ever exist between 2 sides… unless of course you’re all straight guys and straight girls who wont get emotionally attached to each other in a bf/gf sense lar.. DO’H!!

so is it really wrong.. 4 a person who’s attached to feel insecure about their partner having a so called platonic relationship with someone else? friendship is the base of every relationship.. if they were not friends before..there is no possible way they could ever be lovers.. a best friend of the opposite sex or in some cases same sex filling ure emotional needs and you being absolutely comfortable with him/her … wouldnt this in the end grow to something more?? because the care and trust has grown so deep in that in some cases… the best friends are even the cause of the other persons many break ups? wouldnt that mean the bond of the friendship is so strong that nothing can come in between…so what about a lover? but in this point..even the lover cannot break through that friendship..so… WHAT DOES THIS POSSIBLY PROVE?

me myself do not believe in even normal best friends..i only believe in close friends..i really dont think best friends really exist or will really last forever..but i do believe in close friends.. thats why i always believe..my best friend will b my partner in life.. who in my mind..is my lover, my companion and well, like i said..my best friend =)

*ps..i would like to point out..when i say platonic relationships..i meant in a best friend basis not a normal friend basis..of course its possible for a guy and girl to be normal friends… BUT NOT BEST FRIENDS…and i stand firm on this*

oh..found this online.. just felt like posting it..cuz their thoughts r like mine

I Used To Believe in Platonic Friendships
I once believed that there was such as thing as a strictly platonic opposite sex friendship. In fact, I have been involved in several over the years that I convinced myself were “safe” because they were platonic. But I was proven wrong every time. I have come to realize that it is extremely difficult to maintain a truly platonic opposite sex friendship over time, especially for women.

Women Get Attached Easily
It is relatively easy for a guy to be friends with a girl without a deep emotional attachment, but women tend to get attached very easily, especially if their emotional needs are being met. If it is a good solid friendship, then obviously the man will meet some of those needs and emotions will inevitably be involved. In just about every “platonic” friendship I have been in, “friendship” feelings gradually migrated into romantic feelings over time (not necessarily on my side).

The Line Is Too Fine
As a friendship grows and deepens, how can you not develop more intense loyalty, admiration, and attachment toward the other person? With a member of the opposite sex, the line between friendly and romantic feelings is too fine to not cross over, so it usually does. In fact, most really solid healthy relationships start out as a friendship.

Inappropriate for Married People
That is why it is commonly considered inappropriate for married people to maintain exclusive “platonic” relationships with members of the opposite sex. It is too dangerous. The attachment and feelings that evolve out of a good friendship almost always lead to a deeper emotional bond with the other person that is not easily broken. Our feelings can sometimes also trick us, making us think that true love is there, when in fact it is nothing more than infatuation or admiration that we are feeling.

Platonic Friendship Will Lead to Romantic Feelings
So if I had to pick a side, I would say that a platonic friendship will eventually lead to romantic feelings, at least for one person involved (regardless of whether either person is already in a relationship).

its 4.36 am… its been a while since ive stayed up so late.. n woke up pretty early 2 4 that matter of fact….sigh…….ive got nothing much to update about..honestly …but…….theres nothing else to do……..so juz blog random stuff… i know la my blog boring…cis… dunnit to chuen me wan ….. my life so uneventful.. the only things that happen all same only wan u_u SO HOW… kenot meh… cis T_T

OH!! BUT TODAY MUST B PROUD OF ME!! i oNLY USED abt 30 RINGGIT IN MID VALLEY!! 25 = taxi … 10=mocha ….hahaha..my movie n fried chicken sponsered by ken chong n keegan XD .. tahhhaaaankkkk uuuu

i dont know how to express myself in words…im just so numb.. lost..hurt..confused.. sad.. angry.. all the bad things all at once..i want to cry.. but im so numb my tears wont flow properly.. they just stay in my eyes..refusing to ever flow down..my river of tears has dried up for the moment.. LOL..amazing isnt it?

i guess ive lost my spark….that energy to just fight and push and thrive for what i really want… my patience can no longer hold it..and neither can my brains nor my heart……

i want…i want to run away.. run away from everyone … on an island…… with nothing… but him…..but…thats like a dream..not even a dream anymore.. it’s more like a wish that will never come true….to be left alone with the one i love……. im a pure romantic at heart… and i do wish things like this happened..childish..immature..naive….thats me…

ppl might say what about other ppl…u never think of them wan meh…. but if i was left alone on that island with him..i would b happy.. honest i would.. then…if i was happy… wouldnt they b happy? and this u might wonder..what abt u? wouldnt he b happy if i let him do whateever..let him go..let him live his life in peace? im young..imature..im spoiled.. and..im selfish..

i want him to be mine..and mine only…..greedy..dumb……and a wish never to b fulfilled…….